Wednesday, December 2, 2009

At what age should boys get the ';birds and the bees'; talk?

My 8 year old came home one day from school and said he heard that a man puts his penis inside a woman's vagina and that's what having sex is. He also then asked exactly how does the woman's egg get fertilised (we used to just say a man and woman lay together) I couldn't deny it so I said yes that's what happens but it can only happen between loving grown-ups and they have to be married.


It was funny the other day my sister -in law announced that she was pregnant and my son casually said '; so they had sex did they?';At what age should boys get the ';birds and the bees'; talk?
Well with kids these days I'd say 10 or 11.At what age should boys get the ';birds and the bees'; talk?
When they start asking about it! Some kids ask at very young ages. Just answer their questions in non-descript, non-specific ways. If they keep asking, tell them a information in little doses until they are appeased. No need to sit them down with pictures %26amp; charts at an early age. Just answer they questions they ask. But you have to start this process at a young age or they won't ask and they'll just listen to their friends. Ew.
You know, I'm 63 and have never been able to get a bird or a bee to talk.
i think by 11 or 12, it really depends on the boy, how mature they are and so on and so forth.
My son (10) is very interested in animals. He already knows about ';mating.'; So far he hasn't asked questions about human ';mating';. I guess I will have to talk to him about it if he asks, but without going into to much detail. I guess they are ready at around 12 or 13 years to hear specifics about ';mating';.
When they start asking where babies come from and how they got there.
9. good luck.
After the umbilical cord is cut
i got it at 8 and thank GOD because shortly after i found out wrong info from friends. Just the basics at that age and you add to it as they get older
It depends on the child. Usually when they are around 9 or 10 they begin thinking about things and some will ask their parent a few questions.When they ask a question and are still quite young only answer what he has asked and answer honestly.Try to keep an open line of communication between the two of you because there are boys at school who probably have been misinformed and they love to share info with their buddies!


Good Luck!
start when they are 2 at their level.


every 6 months tell it again at their level.


there is not one big talk.


it is a natural part of life.


just like you tell them other things over and over at their level


(say about school or college or driving or cooking or money or food)


you would not have one financial talk at one age.


you teach them those things all through the years.


so you need to start right now, make it casual not a formal 'talk' to be dreaded or avoided. do it at night when they go to sleep.


and remember not to assume your kid is hetero.


as they get older it should get more specific about birth control and the consequences of pregnancy and what if girls say no and child support etc. at 8 or 9 you might talk about how you and mom love each other and how you decided to make a baby.


and that's why you have a separate bedroom. you love each other in a special private way that can make babies.


you get the idea.
12-14, really depends on how much bad information the child is getting in school. they know a lot more than you think or are willing to admit. they should get the sexual molestor speech a lot earlier. around 6-8 yrs old or earlier.
There is an excellent set of books. One is written for boys and one for girls called ';What is happening to my body?'; The explanations are factual and clear. Each of my kids got their own copy when they turned ten, per the advice of a child psychologist. Kids get a lot of misinformation in school and from their friends. Those books head it off and they really understand the facts. That's the best way, always give them the truth and as much as they can handle.
12
At the age that they can handle it. My son was asking questions at 9. When I explained the details he was so grossed out that I don't think he'll have sex til he's 27 :)
On their wedding night.


Just kidding.


When you catch them in bed with a girl.


Just kidding again.


My boys see the birds and the bees every day on our family farm. Hang around a zoo long enough and your kids will get the lesson also.
6 -- otherwise they get it from the street in the dirtiest way possible. GUARANTEED
Wait untill THEY start asking questions. If they aren't asking any by 12, give them the dreaded talk. They will be started sex ed in school by that time anyway.
When they start asking about it answer the specific questions. They'll stop when they're curiosity is fulfilled and ask again when they feel curious again. As long as the conversations are relaxed they'll let you now what they want to know.





A tip; boys like to talk while they're doing something else like a puzzle or baking. The key is to let them lead and let them know on a regular basis that you're available for all subjects and questions, not just sex. LOL
The very first time they ask! The Formal ';Birds and Bee's'; talk is not a lecture done in a few hours on a certain day. It is an on going conversation that you have with your children; not just your boy's. When they ask one of ';those'; questions answer it. Honestly and with a straight face, remember their age and keep the answer simple. Most children don't want the Harlequin Novel version of THE TALK.
my 3 year old is already wondering why baby sister doesn't have a ';pee-pee'; He sees her getting changed and wonders about the differences. I just tell him girls don't have one cause that is how they are made. I guess I'll just answer the questions as they come, but I am hoping to avoid the actual sit down explanation until he is at least 10 or 11. Who knows though.
As soon as they start asking questions about sex.

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